Aliyah's Wedding Day

or A Medieval Wedding

So you want to be a Medieval Bride


How to Marry Medievally

Wedding customs were as varied in the Middle Ages as they are today. They varied by geography, religion, superstition, and era. Below are some informational tidbits for your consideration when planning your "Special Day."


  • Your father’s consent may be considered more important than your own.
  • You may be purchased - sight unseen.
  • Your worth will be discussed in terms of livestock, land, and produce.
  • During your betrothal you may live with your future in-laws.
  • You may choose to be "Married in Your Hair" (wear it loose).
  • Your Bride’s Maids may dress exactly like you to fool evil spirits.
  • White was generally worn by poor Brides to show they came with no debt.
  • Blue trim on your gown or a blue ribbon on your shoulder shows purity.
  • In Germany, rather than "kiss the Bride" the Groom will step on your foot.
  • You may have bread broken over your head or rolls thrown at you.
  • You should throw your garters to keep from being mauled by the single men who wish to give them to their loves to ensure faithfulness.
  • You will be put to bed on your wedding night in the presence of witnesses.
  • You will be considered your husband’s property once you’re married.


  • You have to ask her father or guardian for permission to marry.
  • You will pay a "Brideprice" for the privilege of marrying your Bride.
  • You may have to fight for the privilege of marrying your Bride.
  • You will pay the single men in the village to compensate "for robbing them of a possible wife."
  • You may have to pay for the wedding dinner (including food for the servants).
  • Carrying your Bride over the threshold is meant to protect her from tripping and bringing bad luck to your marriage.
  • Since your Bride has no legal status; you become liable for all she does or says as your wife.


Remember - a mutual declaration of espousal is all you really need to be considered married before the 13th century (Common Law Marriage)